In this blog, I am going to be talking about the importance of being honest with yourself and about yourself. This is something that I have learned massively over the time of being in the fostering system, as hiding who you are, or not being honest with yourself can have a massive impact on your social life but also your mental and physical health in the long term, as you can start feeling lost and alone, but most importantly you can feel that you are becoming isolated. Everything in this blog is my own experiences but also my own opinions.
With everyone during our lives, we all come to a point that we get stuck with understanding who we are and what our life is about, weather this is struggling to come to terms with our sexuality, or feeling scared about moving to a new home or even going to university or starting a new job, we all get scared and confused about what we are doing and we have second thoughts about weather this is the right thing to do and weather this is who we are.
From my experience of being in foster care, this was the same for me and I’m sure with a lot of us as well, we have at one time or another felt that we have no idea what we are doing or feeling that we are lost. In my opinion, I feel that this is a natural thing for us as care experienced people to feel, as we are at a disadvantage to a lot of our peers, because we don’t have the secure network around us such as family and friends to help us feel that we belong.
For me, this was exactly what happened, during the time of me being in foster care, i was lost emotionally as i had no one i knew around me, I was finding it hard to get in contact with my friends again, but most importantly i was surrounded by people that i did not know, which made me feel scared and really anxious. However, after a while, I knew that I was in the right place, because being in care was giving me the chance to get my life back on track but also giving me the support and experiences that I was lacking both physically, mentally and socially.
However, In my opinion, us being in the care system, gives us a massive chance to have a better life then we might off otherwise, as when being in care we are given a lot of support to make a better and stronger life for ourselves and this can have a major impact on our futures both professionally and mentally. So, a message from one care experienced person to another, never stop being true to who you are…. Yes, being in care can be the most scary thing going and it can make us feel lost as we never know what we are going to do, but if we are true to who we are and what we want in our lives, things can start to feel a lot better and clearer.
At the end of it all, from myself as a care experienced person I can honestly say that if you are honest with who you are and what you want to do, everything will feel better but most importantly you will be able to get to where you would like to be.
By Anonymous Care Experienced Blogger